THE LIBRARY : GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY BY COACH MEG DONNELLY SEARY
i am really happy to share some wisdom from my dear friend meg, who i have had the joy of being mentored by in the process of ‘re-branding’ & launching my tableware collection. meg has incredible experience working with brands such as nike, the nue co & classpass and now offers her diverse skill set as a brand advisor & coach to female founders. her approach is holistic, spiritual & practical, pulling on her experience in brand & marketing intertwined with her knowledge in human design, offering a human lead and individualised experience.
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i asked meg to share her insights on how we can move out of our own way, to make strides towards our desires, whether that’s in our personal or professional lives - a new business idea, a creative pursuit, a new fitness goal, what can we do to get things rolling…
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Hello, my name is Meg donnelly seary and i’m going to be sharing three things to help you get out of your own way.
these three things are very easy for me, because they are principles i use with my clients and i use across my work, and, it’s things that we all experience in our personal and professional lives.
ok, so my first tip for how to get out of your own way…
YOU ARE EITHER A SPECTATOR, OR YOU ARE A PLAYER
my advice here with anyone that i work with, is to always get on the bloody court, stop sitting in the stalls and judging all the players. when it comes to whatever you want to apply this to, there is so much growth and learning to be done on the court. there are so many mistakes to be made, there are team mates to be meeting, and others will see you. nobody can see you when you are in the stalls, but they see you when you’re on the court. if anybody listening/reading is into human design, and you are a projector, then you’ll know that to be invited you have to be seen. so that’s my first point, regardless of how messy, or how badly you play, or how many times you trip over, get on the court!
my next piece of advice is…
LET YOURSELF TRY
so, we are living in a world where we compare ourselves to everyone, because we have every single outlet to do so. we are comparing our first year in business, with somebody else’s tenth year in business. they share their successes and we stop trying, because we expect to match that level of success when we’ve only just got started. there is this kind of false pretence with trying that it looks desperate, it looks grabby and it basically doesn’t help the narrative that we’ve seen, or the stories we’ve been told that everything should be effortless or things should come with so much ease. there is absolutely a level of truth to that, don’t get me wrong, when there are easeful things that present themselves. but, you have to try. you have to let yourself try, and you don’t have to let it mean anything. what is the fear of people seeing you try? what is the narrative you’ve told yourself? why cant you try, and what is stopping you from trying? we think that when we are trying something for the first time, or it’s not the shiny, amazing product that we first assumed that it would be (or service, or whatever field you’re in), we give ourselves such a hard time and we stop ourselves from even being seen to try. ultimately, you have no idea who you’re inspiring with being seen to try. i know for a fact, many mentors throughout my career have always been the ones to be so honest with how hard they’ve had to try, or how they’ve not been afraid to be seen to be trying, and for it not to look like this most effortless, seamless journey for them.
my third point…
STOP WASTING ANY MORE TIME NOT DOING THE FUCKING THING
stop waiting, there’s never going to be a perfect time. now is that time, and now is all we have. if you want to travel, travel. if you want to write, write. do it now, because the idea that someday it’s going to make sense does not exist, it is our ego and all of our fear getting in the way, and that ‘someday’ is today. it is such a mind fuck when we convince ourselves that we need to have everything aligned before we take the action. because really, courage comes from taking action before you’re even ready, and that’s when things start to fall into place. so, probably my most important point is just to start, just get started. do the thing, do the thing that you have in your brain that makes you feel so squeaky bum, because ultimately, that is the thing you are meant to be doing on this earth, and that’s the thing that everything you’re consuming is telling you not to do. get quiet, and just start.
so, they are my three tips on how to get out of your own way. i hope they’ve been useful! i would love to hear from any of you how you’ve implemented them - if at all. thank you for listening/ reading.
Meg x
UNRETREAT
a space for women to ground & connect
join meg as she hosts her second unretreat escape. a thoughtfully curated weekend in the cotswolds for women who crave expansion, space and community with a gentle schedule of care, nourishment and rest.
enjoy a private chef cooking daily meals with organic produce, morning pilates and forest walks, an intuative and healing facial, a group workshop session with meg, all under the roof of a beauitful cosy cottage.